Triangulation

Artwork Interpretation

This image illustrates two figures facing inward, speaking across a third person seated calmly between them. The centered figure, though poised and grounded, visually carries the burden of the unseen conflict. Behind them, a large triangle symbolically encases the dynamic — reflecting the emotional structure of triangulation, where unresolved tension between two people is managed by involving a third.

Core Meaning

Triangulation occurs when two people in a conflict pull in a third party to reduce anxiety or maintain emotional stability. It’s a common relational defense in families, partnerships, and group dynamics. While it may reduce tension temporarily, it often prevents the original two from working through their issues directly.

Concept Origins

Triangulation was first described by Murray Bowen as a central mechanism in family systems. He noted how emotional triangles help stabilize relationships under stress but perpetuate dysfunction when overused or left unaddressed.

Therapeutic Purpose

Therapists use the concept of triangulation to map relational patterns and shift focus back to the original dyad. Helping clients become aware of triangles allows them to step out of reactive roles and strengthen direct communication, differentiation, and emotional responsibility.

Common Interventions

• Family systems mapping (genograms, triangles)
• Differentiation coaching
• Encouraging direct dialogue between original pair
• Boundary clarification with the third party
• Exploring anxiety patterns and emotional reactivity

Ideal Client Use

Useful with families, romantic partners, and teams where indirect communication or chronic anxiety circulates through triangles. Particularly helpful for clients who feel caught between people, or struggle with loyalty binds and relational guilt.

Cultural Considerations

In collectivist cultures or intergenerational households, triangulation may be normalized or even expected as a way to preserve harmony. Therapists must honor relational loyalty while gently introducing more differentiated ways of managing conflict and emotional needs.